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How to Talk About Senior Living With Your Adult Children

So, you’ve decided to move to a senior living community—congratulations! While you may be excited about this change, telling your adult children about your decision may bring up some complicated questions and concerns. However, it’s important to understand their perspective and address their concerns. Here are some tips to get started.  

Be Ready To Answer Questions

When talking about your move with your adult children, they will likely have many questions. It’s important to be prepared with relevant information about your move. This can help you preemptively address their concerns and reassure them  

They may ask you: 

  • Is everything okay? Are you okay? 
  • Why do you want to move to a senior living community? 
  • When do you want to move? 
  • How much does it cost? 
  • How do you feel about the move? 
  • What will the new place be like? How do you know you will be happy there? 
  • What kind of services and amenities does the community offer? 
  • What happens if your needs change? Do they offer long-term care?
  • How big is the space you want to move into? 
  • How will this move impact our family dynamics? How will we be able to stay connected? 

Your children want what’s best for you and it’s natural for them to want to protect you. They may also be experiencing complicated feelings about how this may change their relationship with you. Answering their questions can help put their minds at ease. 

Make Them Feel Included 

During this discussion, tell your children specifically how they can help you with this transition. This can help them feel included in the process. Do you need help deciding between two communities? Would you like logistical assistance with selling your home and moving? Do you want help getting your finances squared away? 

In addition to discussing your current needs, talk about the future. Create a shared vision around how often you would like to see family members and how you will keep in touch. Let them know that they can share any concerns they have and that you will be open to hearing them. This transparent conversation can help your children overcome any concerns so that they feel comfortable with the move.

Invite Them on a Tour

If you haven’t chosen a new community, invite your children to tour communities with you—they can help you find the right fit. Come to the community with a list of criteria and questions and ask your family to take notes and ensure that all of your key questions are asked. They may also be able to point out things you may not have noticed.

If you’ve already chosen your new community, take another tour and invite your loved ones along. Seeing your new community first hand can help them visualize what your life will be like there, helping them feel confident in your decision.

Talk Openly About Finances

Talking about the financial aspect of senior living is a key consideration for both you and your adult children. Discussing these things can make financial planning much easier for you and your loved ones. You will want to talk about upfront and monthly costs and the benefits, such as services, amenities, social enrichment, and potential long-term savings

If you’re moving into a continuing care retirement community (CCRC) that offers Life Care, you won’t have to worry about paying to move to a new community if your care needs change. Plus, with the many services and amenities available in senior living communities, such as home maintenance, housekeeping, landscaping, and more, you can easily consolidate your expenses and get more valuable time back in your life. 

Plan Your Life at Querencia Together

Taking a collaborative approach to your move can make the transition a positive one. While support from your loved ones is important, it’s only one part of the equation. Work with your senior living community’s team to ensure a smooth move. At Querencia, our helpful team is here to support you every step of the way. 

You and your loved ones are welcome to schedule a tour or attend a community event to see if our community is the right fit for your next endeavor.

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